Much love, Shaudeh Farjami

Every emotion has a vital purpose in our character, decisions, inner thoughts, and core beliefs. With that said, we are allowed and designed to feel all emotions, so don’t be afraid to let it all out! That’s what emotions are for. Consider it a power balance of inner your thoughts; a series of checks and balances. Every emotion helps to balance out another. Sadness, envy, embarrassment, joy, disgust, anger, fear, boredom… and even anxiety.

Anxiety hijacks your inner thoughts, memory recollection, actions, and morals. An unhealthy imbalance of anxiety, turns you into a different person because it causes you lose a sense of yourself. I’ve come to realize that anxiety is the fear of the future. If it is not controlled in a healthy manner, anxiety makes it impossible to recall the positive memories. If anxiety takes over and blocks out the other emotions, anxiety will flood your mind with negative memories and future threats. Too much anxiety can be detrimental. With that said, if you live in the present moment, you can beat your anxiety. Living in the moment and appreciating the gift of life is what truly matters. Reflect on the gratitude for your relationships, family, blessings, opportunities, and passions.

But even anxiety has an integral purpose. Anxiety projects what our future might look like if our trajectory go down a certain path. Shockingly, anxiety can be beneficial. If you are anxious about something, it means you care. A math midterm, a first date, moving to a new city, or applying for a position. The stable nerves are healthy, believe it or not. Anxiety is not something we should get rid of entirely, it is an emotion that must be controlled and managed. I am still learning how to nurture and balance my own nerves and anxiety in this daunting period formally known as “postgrad”. I’ll let you know when I get it down, but at least I am getting better everyday.

It is immense joy that ultimately helps us beat the battle against imbalanced anxiety. This joy roots from gratitude and love for yourself and those around you. Channel a feeling of joy that absolutely contagious. I aspire to be the shimmer of joy that shines on those I love.

Every emotion is a paint stroke in the mural masterpiece called individuality, even your anxiety.

Growing up changes you, and that’s okay. Looking back on the person I was a few years ago, I am so proud of the person that I have become. My goals are gleaming at the end of the tunnel. My relationships are strong and indomitable. I take care of my self both physically and mentally. I surround myself with people who empower, encourage, and motivate me to be the best version of myself. I surround myself with people who love me for all that I am. For my fear, for my boredom, for my sadness, for my envy, for my anger, for my anxiety, and for my beaming joy.

Much love,

Shaudeh Farjami