Much love, Shaudeh Farjami

Someone who respects you, even when you’re not around. Someone who asks how your day was before you have to ask first. The person who’s patient with you, even when you’re not the easiest to put up with. Someone who’s honest and loyal, an unfortunately difficult trait to find. The person who adores you not only for your assets, but for every quirk and imperfection.

My hope is that all people have this someone in their life— a someone who encompasses a few of those characteristics. It could be a collective group, a roommate, a family member, a loved one. With Valentine’s day and the season of love on the tail end, it is important to acknowledge the purity and beauty of the bonds.

Being able to find a person who you click with so naturally, recognizing that seamless energy, is one of the best auras in the process of human relationships. The allusion that you’ve known that person your entire lifetime; it feels like you made it home.

Maybe that’s what the best connections are— not someone who has every quality in common with you, but someone who makes you feel at home.

Maybe home is two arms holding you tight when you’re in shambles. Home is someone who is your safest haven and your most daring adventure. Home is someone who makes you realize how you should’ve been treated all along.

Home, is the first person you want to tell the good news to. The “guess what!”, the “you won’t believe this.”— that adrenaline energy. Home is the person you can tell everything and anything to without the fear of judgment.

If there’s one thing all my friends know about me, I make the call too quick. I jinx it. How do you know if you’re just caught up in the idea of home? Impossible to know. That’s where the vulnerability taps in. While I am still getting the hang of this one myself, I am learning how to stop fearing what could go wrong and welcome what could go right.

If I wasn’t ready, I wouldn’t have the opportunity. That goes for everything. A rigorous class, a demanding new job, transferring schools, a time consuming internship, new relationships. Increase the odds of “I can’t believe I did this”, and eliminate any of the odds for “I should’ve done it”. Even if it might not go as planned, it might be your most vital journey yet.

Much love,

Shaudeh Farjami