Much love, Shaudeh Farjami

Time— a phenomena no mere mortal can master when it comes to its toll building connections. We meet the truest friend the month before parting ways. We cast gaze at the most attractive person… to find out they are already taking @TomHolland. We encounter someone who encourages our energy, but in unseasonable time.

“It would be so perfect,” we manifest to our friends. “If only I could turn the clock back 6 months, even 3 weeks…” Timing is the inevitable third party in all our friendships, connections, and relationships. Why do we never pause to think about why we allow time to play such a drastic role in our lives?

Time is the devil, but it is only the devil if we give it the power to do so. Here’s the blatant truth that we all need to accept: the people we meet at the wrong time are actually just the wrong people. The right people would make it happen, even if the timing is not convenient for them.

You never encounter the right people at the wrong time because the right people in your life are timeless. The right people will change your trajectory. The right people will shift your mindset.

The right people will challenge the concept of time all together. They make you believe you have known them your entire life. Catching up on lost time, they are captivated by learning more about you everyday.

In the same way, just because someone has been in your life for the most time, does not mean they deserve to maintain a leading role in your life forever. The amount of time someone has been apart of your life does not mean their spot is saved for a lifetime. They need to continuously prove they deserve their spot. Learn to let go.

Similarly, this applies to not finding enough time in the day to foster a connection. I am a strong believer of if they wanted to, they would. Those who want to be in your life will make it happen. Studying 20 minutes earlier for a moment to catch up with you. Shifting workout schedule to grab a coffee with you. Yes, there are only 24 hours in a day with only so much potential energy to exert. Channel that energy for those you love and passions that enthuse you. It all comes back to time management. Do not let the time manage you.

With that said, carve out time for the people that bring you joy. Carve time for the people that make you excited. Carve time for the people that you associate with your ringtone. Make it happen. The best things come from risk, not conveniency. Nothing positive comes from living in the safety net. If it does not challenge you, it does not change you.

Once in awhile, blow your own mind.

Much love,

Shaudeh Farjami